Be sober [well balanced and self-disciplined], be alert and cautious at all times. That enemy of yours, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion [fiercely hungry], seeking someone to devour.1 Peter 5:8 (AMP)
The Devil is Ready to Pounce
On Monday night, my husband and I had a fight. In my heart, I started resenting him. And then suddenly I found myself under attack. My stomach swelled up and I felt like I was going to throw up. My whole body started shaking, and these thoughts of panic started flooding my mind. I discerned that this was a demonic attack against me, so I started praying. But nothing happened and it got worse. Then, after a few minutes of getting nowhere on my own, I reached out to my husband and asked for prayer. He prayed over me, commanding the spirit of panic to leave and asking for God to activate angels to get rid of my oppressors. Immediately, the attack stopped. I was able to go back to sleep.
In the morning, I asked the Lord to show me why I was attacked. I wasn’t prepared for His answer. God asked me what was going on before the attack. Then I remembered the thoughts I was harboring against my husband. I trespassed, stepped over the line. I came out of alignment with how God designed me to be honoring to my husband. And because of that I came out from under his protection. God showed me that Satan was watching. He was seizing me up for the kill. That was the open door that let the enemy come in. So, I immediately repented to God and then humbled myself and asked my husband for forgiveness.
God’s Structure of Authority
Our world has everything backwards. The Church has been yielding to this lie that women are far below men in their worth. We are created equal. Galatians 3:28 says, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Though we are equal, there is an order to everything God has made. The reason for this is because He knows best. He knows that women have great influence over men (remember Eve and the fruit?). God does not want women to use their gift of influence selfishly, or to lead our husband’s away from God’s plan. When the husband is living under the authority of God, his wife should live under his authority…which makes life so much easier. A lot of times women don’t allow their husbands to lead because they are afraid that they won’t do it right, if at all. And so, we come out of the alignment God set up for us to live in harmony with one another, and take control.
In all honesty, the Church needs to revisit what God says about marriage. Let’s look at what the bible says about husbands and wives.
God’s Instructions for Husbands
Husbands, you in turn must treat your wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers.1 Peter 3:7 (TPT)
Woah! Did read that? Let look at it in a different version.
Show her honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered or ineffective.1 Peter 3:7 (AMP)
If we take this scripture by what it says, we can see that the way husbands treat their wives effects their prayers. God clearly shows us here that He will not listen to the prayers of a husband who does not honor his wife or respect her. Wow. What a warning! Let’s be careful to honor each other and show respect.
God’s Instructions for Wives
Be devoted to your own husbands, so that even if some of them do not obey the Word of God, your kind conduct may win them over without you saying a thing. For when they observe your pure, godly life before God, it will impact them deeply.1 Peter 3:1-2 (TPT)
This verse above is for everyone. Even those who have husbands that do not follow the Lord. Devote yourself to your husband, and be kind. There is no room for nagging here, because it doesn’t draw the husbands to God. This Word says that your kind conduct may win them over. Let’s trust God for that!
A virtuous and excellent wife [worthy of honor] is the crown of her husband,Proverbs 12:4 (AMP)
But she who shames him [with her foolishness] is like rottenness in his bones.
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.Proverbs 31:10-12 (ESV)
In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God.Ephesians 5:24-26 (TPT)
Ok, these scriptures hit home. Do we get the gravity of Ephesians 5:24-26? Wives are supposed to reflect the Church. And husbands are supposed to reflect Jesus Christ. That is a big deal. There is no room in that relationship for disrespect, manipulation, selfishness, or abuse. We have got to learn from Him how to treat each other. And when we start getting a hold on that, we can understand how He desires the Church (His bride) to look.
We are on the same team. We have one enemy, and it isn’t each other. As a married couple, we must realize that we are fighting the good fight of faith together. We can’t be taking out those who are on our team! Can you imagine if that happened during the Super bowl? That team would not be able to win if all they were doing was causing each other to trip up. We have got to align ourselves with God and learn from Him how He wants us to operate. Even in disagreement, we can recognize that we are on the same team. The devil is sizing you up to kill, steal and destroy from your life. Don’t give him an open door. Don’t take the bait of Satan. Be alert, like Peter says, and live in submission to God in your marriage.
Lord, help me to become the husband/wife that You designed me to be. I admit that I have come out of alignment with You, and I’m positioning myself before You today so that You can put me in my proper place. I humble myself before You, God, and ask for Your forgiveness for the mistakes I have made in my marriage. I repent of pride, unforgiveness and any dishonor that I have had against my spouse. Show me a better way to live. I receive Your wisdom, and courage to follow Your instructions for my life. In Jesus mighty name, amen.